Where Does Our Motivation Come From and How Deep Do We Have to Reach Inside to Find It?
Last year, Aleksander Doba completed his third solo voyage across the Atlantic Ocean, in a specially built kayak, just shy of his 71st birthday. His third voyage, from New Jersey to a port on the coast of France, took 110 days. His first trip, in 2014, originated in Senegal on the west coast of Africa and ended in in a town on the coast of Brazil, and the second went from Lisbon, Portugal and ended on the beaches in Florida in 2014. These trips leave him covered in salt-induced skin rashes, blisters, and flaking fingernails and toenails. He brings enough freeze-dried foods and water and can sleep up to three hours a night in the kayak of his cabin, constructed to be unsinkable and self-righting.
His attitude is refreshing. What most people experience as suffering, he re-labels as determination and motivation, what he calls a kind of "contrarian self-determination." He says the challenge is not physical but one of tedium and perseverance. "Hundreds, thousands, maybe millions of repetitions. The brain is removed from the process." He attributes his outlook to his Polish heritage, "If you aren't willing to suffer, you can do nothing; you can sit and die." And, his outlook is punctuated with the comment, "I don't want to die in my sleep."
Our well of motivation is bottomless. There is no end to what we can accomplish, until we stop trying. Aleksander Doba is a good example. Where do we find this bottomless reservoir of strength and determination? When working with nursing home patients who struggle with a steady stream of physical losses and setbacks, from amputation to stroke, I look for this inner strength and determination. Sometimes it’s a flame that hasn’t gone out, or energy that’s been blocked, or even just a lot of mental clutter that gets in the way. Whatever the metaphor, I stress with my clients the point that it’s in all of us, is always there, and can always be tapped again. Like the young woman who fell into a diabetic coma and now is ambivalent about her will to walk again. A part of her is just tired of the struggle, and another wants to get back to where she was before but even better. So, we look for – and help her find – that very same determination and motivation that Alexander Doba uses to kayak across the ocean. It’s there, in every one of us, though sometimes hidden or locked away, but there just the same.
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